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  • If people lie for self preservation, wouldnโ€™t it be reasonable to conclude that children lie to their parents because they feel the need to preserve themselves from their parent ?

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  • @Ms__TeacherLady When I lied to my mom in childhood it was always because I didnโ€™t want to disappoint her.

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  • @Ms__TeacherLady Loaded question/topic..and โ€œsafelyโ€ is a tough context with this subject

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  • @Ms__TeacherLady That's a normal reaction, it is apart of ones nature to lie unless you have established trust in that since of security where one is not being yelled at. Thoughts from a therapist prospective, personally speaking my children have never done that to me.

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  • @Ms__TeacherLady I empathize and I recognize that Iโ€™m speaking from a place of authority over my children whom I must raise with integrity. When they feel they can lie to me, I feel that theyโ€™ve underestimated my intelligence. Itโ€™s a test of limits and a shot of proving their own authority.

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  • @Ms__TeacherLady I always felt safe and could tell my parents anything. But I also think self preservation is human nature. It is learned long before ppl know if the space is safe or not. But I agree. Kids should feel safe with their parents. But CYA is instinctive LOL.

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  • @Ms__TeacherLady Some kids lie to avoid punishment. And thats not necessarily a jab on parents. It's a learned behavior. It's not so much the lie as it is lie learning to avoid an undesired outcome.

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